Wednesday, December 29, 2010

What do you do when he loses his ring?

So as all of you military wives out there, and any personal friends of mine that have ever talked to me for more than 2 minutes, may know...every single time your cell phone rings, there is a sense of pure excitement that completely overcomes you.  Regardless of what I am doing at the time, the minute my cell phone rings, nothing else matters because I know that for at least the next minute or so I will be hearing his voice.  Today was no different, until I answer the phone.  Now, I know my husband well enough to know when something is wrong, and today something was really really bothering him.  Finally he spit it out..."I've got some bad news", he says, "I've lost my ring."  Wait. What?  Yep, I heard that correctly. Apparently, my sweet dear husband was wearing work gloves while they were out moving dirt around, and from sweating all day, when he took the gloves off the ring decided to come off too.  Now, keep in mind they are working with about 5 truck loads full of dirt out there, so the likelyhood of him finding that diamond in the rough...well is gonna be pretty rough!  :)  (Sometimes I really do amuse myself!)  The pain in his voice as he said that to me absolutely shattered my heart.  I thought I would be upset if anything like this ever happened, but knowing how much it pained him to not have it on his finger anymore made me realize something. 
Alot of times people tend to think that materalistic things define us or parts of our lives.  It was important for me to let him know that the ring on his finger was not what defined our relationship.  It is merely a symbol of the commitment we have made to each other.  In any sense, I realized that being hurt or crying or yelling was not going to change the placement of the ring. So instead, I sucked it up and told him how much I loved him and how sorry I was that he no longer had it. I took advantage of the opportunity to let him know that regardless of the situation, he was still my husband and he would have a ring waiting on him when he gets back home. 
So I ask you, what would you do if your significant other lost something that was of importance and meaning from you?  As hard as it is to swollow sometimes,  we need to all realize that love has far more meaning when we show it through our actions of patience, respect and support.  He needed my love and support at the moment, and I did all that I could to give it to him!  Besides, thats what this life is all about, isn't it?

1 comment:

  1. Cass,
    Just another reason why I love you so much! You love my Son and it shows through in everything you do or say. I am not only proud of him, I am soooooo proud of you and admire you for your courage, your support and your love. You Go Girl! Love, The Old Man and the Sea. And by the way, I lost my wedding ring so many years ago in a baseball glove while playing in a game with my shipmates! Like you said... it's just a thing!

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